Tuesday, July 21, 2020

Stay Positive With Positive People (COVID Chronicles)

So last week didn't get off on a good start. Quite terrible, actually. Something happened that just destroyed my mood. I couldn't really sleep because I couldn't really stop thinking about it. I could already imagine my fury spilling out in my next blog article...

But I couldn't do that. This COVID-19 Chronicles has a yin-yang balance. It's a promise I made. One negative, one positive, in alternate fashion. I already wrote some nasty things in the previous blog. My bad karma has been exhausted. The next article has to be something positive.

As the week continued, I tried to look for positives. I reached out to people. I mended my 'errors' that people weren't happy with. Slowly, I righted the boat, and everything was smooth sailing back again. My bad spot earlier in the week hasn't healed completely (and never will, I guess). But so what? What's important is the things that really mattered in life really perked up.


Smile and the world smiles with you, cry and you cry alone...

Photo by Nicholas Swatz

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And the good news kept coming in. My university suddenly decided to open up the extra gates that has been left closed during the pandemic to control the flow of traffic by turning away non-staff and unauthorised visitors away. By cutting down on entry points, this had built up long queues of cars during peak hours. The staff had a harder time than usual to get in and out the university.

And then one exceptionally stormy evening struck, causing a crazy bottleneck jam. The next day, the university announced that the other gates will be opened, but with sensible restrictions - only in the early morning and evenings, and only allowing one-way traffic (in-flow for morning, out-flow for evening).

Well done, traffic controllers! See how decisive people can be in times of emergencies. In my last article, I wrote about the difference between a good and bad administrator is five heartbeats. So this incident has somewhat renewed my faith that there are good administrators at the wheel, after all.

Of course, I'm sure someone higher upstairs must've been caught in the jam, missed some important appointment, and made some angry noises. Anyway, motive aside, a good result is still a result worth celebrating. Stay positive!

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So what exactly happened that ruined my mood earlier in the week?

Nah, I'm not going to talk about it. At all. Totally. That's how insignificant this small 'blip' in my life. That's how irrelevant the person responsible for causing me grief is to me. Seek revenge? Or forgiveness? Neither. There are some people in the world that are just best left alone. Cut them out of your thoughts. They do not even exist.

Why waste energy being bitter or sad about something that is beyond your control anyway? Some people operate the way as they always have. It's the only way they know. Nothing you say or do can change their minds. You just have to accept them for who they are. The most you could afford them is your pity.

For it's people who can't see positives in themselves that typically spread negativity to others. In other words, negative people can only feel good about themselves when they put other people down. SAD!

Positive people stay positive, no matter how bad the situation is. I'm fortunate to have positive people in my company. I'm far from being the pillar of positivity myself, so their positive energies really helped me regain some semblance of self-control and self-dignity. Thank you, positive people!


I can't name people who do not exist

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So does this mean that I can revert back to grumpy mode in the next article?

Not necessarily so. You know what? I change my promise. My target is now to write more positively, even about stuff I feel about negatively about. Sounds rather optimistic, I know. BUT I CAN DO THIS!

I've probably said this a million times before, in some other version or variant before, but I'll say it again since most of us including myself needs reminding: that life is far too short dwelling on negative feelings and memories. Being forced into a field of negativity is an unavoidable part about life. The best - and only - reaction is to bounce back harder than ever to reach to the positive side of the world.

If you take a fall, get back quickly on your feet. And keep on moving. There's more to life ahead of you than behind you.


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